Moms
teach us so many things. Our mom is our
first teacher. She taught us how to use
a spoon and drink from a cup. Moms
settle disagreements for us and help us get along with others. A way we can
honor our mothers is to do the things they taught us to do. Abram was able to disagree with his nephew and
followed what his mother taught him.
Abram had disagreements. Lot went
with Abram and as they went together they ran into major disagreements. This passage shows us how we can disagree
with people in a Godly manner. Maybe you’re
struggling with how to get along with someone.
Here on Mother’s Day how can we honor our mom in these
circumstances? We begin with a place of
worship.
Prepare your
heart through worship.
4to the place where he had made an altar at the first. And there
Abram called upon the name of the LORD.
Abram
returned to this place of worship. This
sets the stage to settle a disagreement.
The first call God issues to us is to come back to Him. Sometimes we can be confused about why we
disagree. We need to have time to check
ourselves. We need to ask, “How’s my
heart?” How is your heart today? We have been going through a lot
recently. There’s a lot in the
news. We are trying to make sense of
everything. Would you pause and ask God
to care for your soul? Abram did this in
verse 4. Abram returned to the place we
looked at last week, in Shechem. He took
his heart and his spirit there. The
places we have experienced God are meaningful to us. We remember when God spoke to us. We have a need in our heart to be
settled. One point from verse 4 is we
have a lot of things we turn to in disagreements. We should worship and not go other ways
before we engage with another person about a disagreement. Abram was very wealthy. Sometimes we try to fix our problems with our
wealth. In Genesis we see this happening
for the second time in Abram’s life.
Abram makes many mistakes. In
chapter 12 he just made one. His anger
takes him back to God.
Carefully
consider the challenges.
Abram
considers the challenge and asks, “What’s this really about?” We can get confused on what we are really
upset about.
6so that the land could not support both of them dwelling together;
for their possessions were so great that they could not dwell together,
What’s
happened is their closeness is leading to fights. They are getting in each other’s way. Maybe you’re experiencing some of this at
home now? We are in closer contact with
one another. Even though we love the
people we are around they can get in our way.
That’s what’s happening in this story.
They are too successful! God is
blessing them financially. Their
abundance causes problems. This can
happen to us in lots of ways. Kids, like
when you’re playing a game on your XBOX or ipad you might get into
disagreements with your siblings. Mom
says she is going to take it away from both of you. She will tell you when she was a kid all she
had to play with were sticks. The
abundance we have can lead to disagreements.
God has been good to us. Jacob
runs into this in Genesis 30. God’s
blessing can lead to a challenge.
Find common
ground.
8Then
Abram said to Lot, "Let there be no strife between you and me, and between
your herdsmen and my herdsmen, for we are kinsmen.
They
are literally trying to find common ground.
There’s always something you have in common with someone even if you
disagree with them. Here is verse 8 Abram
is being a peacemaker. Peace doesn’t’
come automatically. Abram has worshiped
to be sure he is dealing with the right issue.
“We are kinsmen,” he says. Kinsmen means “brothers.” Abram is actually his uncle, so what he is
saying is, “we are family.” It’s not
good to disagree. Notice how he does
this. Abram and Lot have a lot in
common: the same God, they’re both believers, the same career, the same
work. They have lots in common. It helps to look at another person and see
what you have in common with them. Sometimes as believers we are using the same
resources and we all want God’s family to grow. We are thankful for the
tremendous impact you are having in our community. Sometimes as we go along we bump into each
other. We are believers and we belong to
Christ. We are called to make
disciples. We have a lot in common. Maybe your disagreement isn’t with another
believer. Maybe what you have in common
with that person is that you both love North Carolina. You both love Asheboro, our community. Maybe you both love baseball. You may root for different teams but you both
love the sport. Find common ground
because it can be a foundation for how we can bring peace.
See the
possibilities.
9Is not the whole land before
you? Separate yourself from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to
the right, or if you take the right hand, then I will go to the left."
Abram
has Lot view the land. To settle a
disagreement you have to see other possibilities and other solutions. See the grace Abram demonstrates here. He tells Lot to choose. Abram is older and
wealthier. He is over Lot, more powerful
than Lot. He could have dictated to Lot
but he allows him to be part of the solution.
He asks Lot to choose and says he will take what’s left. Sometimes physical distance is needed. Kids, if you share a room with a sibling
maybe you’ve had to say, “This side of the room is mine and that side is yours.” College students, you love your parents but
maybe some things aren’t working out quite right with you living at home right
now. When we love each other we have to
find common ground. Abram chooses peace
over prosperity. He is already wealthy.
Sometimes in a disagreement if we know we will lose financially we will dig
in. That’s a wrong move. Peace is valuable. Peace should win over prosperity. Abram knows God will take care of him. He gives Lot an opportunity to make a choice.
Give people
the freedom to make their own stupid choices.
You
might be thinking, “Pastor Scotty, you did NOT just say stupid choices!” Abram knew what was right but he still gives
Lot the freedom to choose. This is hard,
especially when we know someone will make a stupid choice.
11So Lot chose for himself all the Jordan Valley, and Lot journeyed
east. Thus they separated from each other.
Trust God.
18So Abram moved his tent and
came and settled by the oaks of Mamre, which are at Hebron, and there he built
an altar to the LORD.
Abram
is now 20 miles south of Jerusalem. He’s
not on the best land, but he has God’s promises. It ends up being the perfect place. In chapter 12 Abram leave everything and he
has been faithful. He continues to
follow God and lives as a nomad. He has
no permanent home. Look at what happens
in this verse. Look at what God does:
God gives Abram a permanent home. “Settled”
means to dwell and make it a home. God
finally gives him a home. This will be
an important place throughout the whole Bible.
Abram builds an altar there and he worships God once again. We will all face disagreements. God calls us to be people who make
peace. In all the disruptions, God cares
about your heart. How is your
heart? Can you trust Jesus as the Lord
and Savior of your life? Can you believe
Jesus died and rose from the dead? Can
you ask god to forgive you? If you
believe and ask forgiveness God will give you a deep peace. Maybe some things are disturbing you. Would you lay these things before God? Can you pray for peace?
Small
Group Questions from the Serendipity Bible
Opening
Questions:
·
Who is your favorite uncle?
Your favorite cousin? Your
spoiled nephew? Where do you like to go
for walks?
Dig
Questions:
·
Why do Abram and Lot choose as they do? A. Rich uncles can afford to be generous? B.
Nice guys finish last? C. God will cover any mistake Abram
makes? D. Good real estate advice
is hard to come by? E. Abram is a righty and Lot
is a lefty? F. Abram is more the country
pioneer type and Lot the urban city type?
G. Lot loves to live a life of
sin?
·
In forsaking rich cities and choosing less fertile land, what does
this reveal about Abram? (See Heb. 11:8-16)
·
In reply to Abram’s faith what new promise does God give?
Reflection
Questions:
·
If faced with a similar choice, would you have followed the
example of Abram or Lot? Why?
·
Would your relationship with God be helped or hurt by a more
isolated lifestyle? By a more crowded
lifestyle? Why?
·
What thing might God be asking you “to lift up your eyes…look…see…go,
walk” (vs. 14-17)
·
Like Lot, where are you “grabbing for the gusto?”
Sermon Notes are taken, transcribed and posted by Jeni Martin Johnson.
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